I've heard better ways to go about this, but this does open up some new approaches. For starters, the Bible talks about "speaking the truth in love." Dale Carnegie had some good pointers I'll add in a follow up post.
There is probably something on your mind right now that you feel you need to share with someone important in your life. This truth, and whether or not you choose to share it, is actively playing a role in shaping your life.
This is why it is so important to learn to speak the truth. Yet, most people don’t want to do it in a way that hurts other people and stirs up trouble. This is not an easy task. As it says on my homepage, all truth goes through three stages:
1. First, it is ridiculed 2. Second, it is violently opposed 3. Finally, it is accepted as self-evident
But perhaps it IS possible to reach stage 3 without going through the first two.
The key to stating the truth in a way that other people will thank you for is to speak in unarguable terms -- because when you speak the unarguable, people don’t argue.
To do this, you need to reveal your inner experience and avoid placing blame. For example,